hard before writing this post, as; A) I’m not the most eloquent of writers and
sometimes my thoughts tend to go all over the place and B) I didn’t want this
to look like an ‘Oh woe is me, someone’s being mean’-type piece. However there
comes a time when such things need to be addressed, and there’s only so much
one can take before they reach a boiling point.
(if not all bloggers and vloggers), are often of the receiving end of
criticism, hate-mail, negative comments, whatever have you. It comes with the
gig, we expect it and often times it’s not and should not be a mahoosive deal,
because #fuckthehaters. There comes a time however, when enough becomes enough.
In my case, I normally get spiteful/hateful messages 2/3 times every couple of
days via email, blog comments and tumblr comments, which is slightly baffling
to me because in the ring of plus size blogging, I’m still a small fish, but
that’s neither here nor there. Over the past year and a half, I have particularly
received comments regarding my race, and my so-called ‘imitation’ of current
plus size bloggers.
and take on board all comments including criticism (I wholeheartedly welcome it
as it helps me improve my blog!), I do think that people need to establish the
difference between constructive criticism, and being damn right rude and nasty.
Constructive criticism is designed to point out mistakes, yet also show where
certain areas can be improved; it should be used as useful feedback that can
help you improve yourself, rather than put you down.
spoke about myself and other black bloggers not being able to achieve the same
amount of exposure as white bloggers in the UK. The tone in which she wrote the
email was horrible and even racist; however there are tones of that comment
that do have some truth to it. I do believe that there should be more UK
exposure of plus size bloggers of ethnic origin, whether it be black, Asian,
mixed race etc in order for everyone (as well as consumers) to feel fairly
represented. Now, if the person behind the email had left the comment like
that, it would have been fine. But to insult my physical features and be subtly
racist about the issue is frankly, taking the piss.
I will not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I do wish that these people would stop
and think things through thoroughly because they hit send proceed to mess
someone’s day up. While I am used to trolls, it still hurts. Up until a year
ago, I had never previously shown a full body photo of me online as I had virtually
no confidence and my self-esteem was piss poor; self love/body confidence issues
that I’m still trying to deal with today. It takes a lot for me to post photos
of myself for everyone to see and while I expect some backlash, it’s still
pretty hurtful to receive such comments, especially those dealing with race and
my ‘alleged; copying of other bloggers, which is complete rubbish.
take this time to thank everyone who commented on IG and Twitter with their
words of support. I was honestly overwhelmed with the amount of responses I
have received as like I said above, my blog isn’t that well known. I thank each
and every one of you all with your kind words, it has really made me feel quite
emotional and has only spurred me to continue blogging and not to give up on
something that I am incredibly passionate about! Thank you also to all the fellow bloggers who
sent in kind comments too! Within the plus size blog world there are times when
I do feel a bit alone as the community can sometimes
feel a bit cliqued, however the support has been overwhelming today, thank
thoughts that I could add to this post, however I’ve suddenly become aware of
the length and I’m at work while typing this (bleugh), so..
last time I address topics of this nature on here as I only want positive
vibes! As a wise prophet once
proclaimed, ‘(we)…don’t need no hateration or holleration in this dancery’*.
Dance for Me (song’s a classic!).