Thoughts

“BoDY PoSiTiVitY = sToP SHOwInG oFf YouR bODy”

3rd October 2018

Oh hello there. It’s been a while (especially since posting a lingerie post!) but I thought I’d briefly speak on a topic that’s been annoying me for a while, surrounding the ever popular, Body Positivity. A lot of you may know by now that I longer consider myself a part of the current ‘body positivity […]

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Dating When Plus Sized & Dark Skinned

12th August 2018

Oh hello friends. Today I bring you a little essay/rant/thinkpiece about one of my faaavourite subjects (eurgh…): Dating when you’re not only plus sized, but also dark skinned. Disclaimer: everything you will read below is from my own personal experiences and the experiences of other plus-sized black women. It does not mean to say that […]

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Why We Build Emotional Walls.

30th July 2018

*Building walls/construction – you see how I tied in my photos with today’s subject? #CONTENT* Your walls are high because you’ve learned the hard way that you shouldn’t trust anyone who tells you what you want to hear. You shouldn’t believe anything they hear unless they can prove it. You shouldn’t imagine a relationship with […]

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The Ends.

19th July 2018

I’m what you call a ‘native South Londoner’. I was born in a South London hospital. Grew up in Battersea. Went to primary and secondary schools in South London. Moved to Croydon. Attended a College in South London. Went to a University in South London. Moved out to Denmark Hill. Moved again to West Norwood, […]

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Passing on Body Values to my Children

6th July 2018

Before you start getting excited, no I am NOT pregnant lmao. I thought I’d chat a bit about the body values I inherited as a child, and what I would want to hopefully pass down to my kids, If I should ever have them (chances are looking pretty slim at the moment, but we live […]

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HOW TO OVERCOME IMPOSTER SYNDROME.

21st June 2018

Imposter syndrome: a psychological pattern in which people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent, often internalised fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. How many of us have felt like the above at some point in their lives, but didn’t know that there was an official name for it? *waves hand*.  Imposter Syndrome is feeling like you’re […]

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BEING UNAPOLOGETIC CAN BE HARD

14th June 2018

Hi guys! So…*phew!* THIS blog post has been absolute YEARS in the making. I must have started and deleted this post almost 80 or 90 times in the process. Why, you may ask? Well, a part of me was nervous as hell to upload in case people would take my words the wrong way. I […]

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EMBRACING ME

29th May 2018

I talk a lot about self-love, confidence and living your best life on here and that’s all good when trying to get OTHERS to love themselves, however, when it comes to me, the path is not so linear. When I often speak with my readers about the struggles they face and the confidence issues they […]

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TO FINESSE A HUMMINGBIRD: A PHOTO STORY

24th May 2018

Oh…hi peasants; My name is Anastasia Solokov-Baxter-Lee-Fassbender. Age? Let’s go with 22. Who am I? Some call me a scammer. A wannabe. A gold digger. Even a whore. Me? I think I’m an entrepreneur. I was raised in South London to a working class family. My family – God bless them – are a lovely […]

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